#2 Failing Successfully

Thank you to everyone who has listened to ‘Failing Successfully’, I’ve had such a great response in only a few days. This episode was particularly difficult to produce because of course, I don’t like putting a spotlight on my failures and setbacks and I’m clearly not alone in this.

But I ask, what kind of perspective can you really have on life and success without really experiencing what it means to fail?

In my 20’s I was sure that by my 30’s I would be travelling the world and running my own creative agency. I had already started consulting and the road ahead looked bright. However, I’m 30 now, working 9-5 in an agency for someone else with not much travelling involved. If you told me this 5 years ago, I would have considered this a failure – but I really don’t see it this way.

When things don’t plan out the way we intend, we wrongly use our energy negatively, placing too much emphasis on ‘what could have been’ – instead of harnessing what you’ve learnt to continue building what could be. Especially when the ‘what could be’ is often bigger and better that what you originally had in store. When researching this episode, I found the majority of people who “make it” talk about their failures and tribulations way after they’ve “made it big” – so I wanted to put the spotlight on those of us who are right in the thick so we can learn from each other and gain value from each others vulnerabilities.

My co-host for this episode is Agnes Cazin, a real powerhouse in the fashion industry and creative director and producer at her self-owned Haiti73 Agency. Agnes brings a unique and positive perspective on life and how we define our successes. Highlighting the all-important point that no one can make you feel un/successful without your consent!

Stevie Newman –  CEO, C.A.K.E Cosmetics

Most stories on failure are told after someone has built themselves up, but few talk about what it feels like to be the moment of regrowth. In this episode Agnes and I speak with Stevie Newman, CEO of C.A.K.E Cosmetics, an independent cosmetics brand sold exclusively in leading beauty and drug store Superdrug. It’s hard enough for large companies to get the attention and buy-in from the likes of Superdrug yet alone an independent brand. In this episode we catch up with Stevie to talk about how she managed to achieve a distribution deal with Superdrug and the challenges she faced along the way.

Lisimba Pink – Creator, Diversity All Star Podcast 

My second guest is Limisba Pink, ex-restaurateur, tech maestro and creator of the Diversity All Star podcast. Lisimba embarked on a brave business venture setting up a Caribbean restaurant in Ghana. Lisimba experienced several moments of success, but the restaurant struggled as the Ghanaian economy collapsed and managing a business from abroad became problematic. Lisimba opens up about the lessons he learnt and how he used such setbacks to ensure he’s ready and more resilient on his next endeavour.

Louisa Kiwana – Creator of AFROBLUSH Blog & Podcast

As for myself, in addition to this blog and podcast series I work in consumer research and have a freelance background. Having ventured into several passion projects and professions which have flopped and also done fiercely well. I’ve learnt not to define myself by my losses and look at failure directly in the face as an opportunity to do better.

As the daughter, granddaughter, niece, employee and friend of fearless business owners (many of which are women), I’ve had plenty examples of success to gain wisdom and strength from. However, I appreciate that many people don’t have these examples or the ability to learn from other people’s mistakes. Therefore, I hope this episodes brings some inspiration, but more so highlights the importance of failure to sharpen your aptitude, improve your attitude and help carve out the right path of opportunity for your dream.

EPISODE 02: BEHIND THE SCENES

Stevie Newman – CEO, C.A.K.E Cosmetics @c.a.k.ecosmeticsuk – Most stories on failure are told after someone has built themselves up, but few talk about what it feels like to be the moment of regrowth. In this episode Agnes and I speak with Stevie Newman, CEO of C.A.K.E Cosmetics, an independent cosmetics brand sold exclusively in leading beauty and drug store @superdruguk. – It’s hard enough for large companies to get the attention and buy-in from the likes of Superdrug yet alone an independent brand. – In this episode we catch up with Stevie to talk about how she managed to achieve a distribution deal with Superdrug and the challenges she faced along the way. – AFROBLUSH Podcast: Episode 02 – Failing Successfully. Link in bio / Search AFROBLUSH on iTunes and SoundCloud #podcast #success #business #inspiration #enterpreneur #startups #lifehacks #afroblush

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Lisimba Pink – Creator, Diversity All Star Podcast @lisimbapink – My second guest is Limisba Pink, ex-restaurateur, tech maestro and creator of the Diversity All Star podcast. Lisimba embarked on a brave business venture setting up a Caribbean restaurant in Ghana. – Lisimba experienced several moments of success, but the restaurant struggled as the Ghanaian economy collapsed and managing a business from abroad became problematic. – Lisimba opens up about the lessons he learnt and how he used such setbacks to ensure he’s ready and more resilient on his next endeavour. – AFROBLUSH Podcast: Episode 02 – Failing Successfully. Link in bio / Search AFROBLUSH on iTunes and SoundCloud #podcast #success #business #inspiration #enterpreneur #startups #lifehacks #afroblush

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A huge thanks to videographer/editor Charbel Bou Antoun and superb Sound Engineer Frédéric Anicet.

MY LITTLE LIFE HACKS: How to make the most of failure

After recording I had to let the podcast production dust settle and take time to listen back to this episode, reflect and consider the key learning.  In doing so, I put together 4 tips that have personally helped me get over setbacks and keep things in perspective. Let me know if they work for you, or if you have any other tips you would add!

1. Know that anything meaningful carries risk

Anyone who fails has first taken a risk. Anything worth doing is accompanied by the risk of failure. Successful people are not successful because they suffer fewer defeats than less successful people. They experience more failures – but they will not submit and keep picking themselves back up.

2. Identify the worst possible outcome

If you are afraid of the impact of failure, draw up a picture of the various bad things that can happen. You should also think through completely exaggerated scenarios. You will notice that this actually has a calming effect. You will realise that none of these things will actually kill you.

3. What positive could come of this?

There is little point in asking this question immediately after a failure. You are still dealing with disappointment, anger and sorrow (a little like my unsuccessful job interview I mention in the episode). But this question can be very useful after some time has passed. Try to find out what positive could come from your failure, it’ll make it all that less scary.

4. Avoid excuses and assigning blame

Don’t look for excuses and don’t look for blame with others. Passing blame will not help you. By doing so, you only end up handing control over to others, and you will be unable to recognise mistakes that you can learn from.

Thank you, I love and appreciate your comments so much!

 

 

1 Comment

  1. This is a really good episode, in life, I’ve come to realise that with every failure, there is a lesson to learn on how not to go about something and someone never fails until the person stops trying. Well done Louisa

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